Alfa 164: Learning to cooperate with people who operate at a different speed
I got an email from someone I really enjoy seeing asking for help putting an Alfa back together after the PO had removed the engine for head gaskets. Within 5 minutes I had already responded "sure, when do you want me to show up?".
Car showed up to my house on a flatbed a couple of weeks later. No engine in sight.
Two weeks later, the engine and trans showed up. I do feel like I'm pretty uncharitable when I consider how much this bothered me, but I think just viewing it rationally, I never signed up to store a car for two weeks.
All of the engine accessories were in the trunk of the car. By some miracle, all of the fasteners and little parts were all there! It was honestly an enjoyable puzzle putting everything back together having not taken it apart myself. I've done everything in the engine bay on these cars, so it was familiar, but there was the added challenge of working on an automatic car. I had never joined an auto trans to an engine, and that was pretty straightforward and somewhat fun. Had to borrow some fuel injector parts from a buddy in town but otherwise everything was present.
I had the engine and tran aaaaalmost installed within 24 hours. Had to sleep on a couple of engine mount challenges and solved them early the next morning.

So then, when I went to fill with coolant, the engine filled at first, and then after a small delay, dumped like half of the coolant from the coolant pump (I believe from the weep hole for the face seal? I should probably know this but can't remember).

Thankfully, I got a new pump from the owner in the mail within a day. Unfortunately, changing water pump with the engine in the car is not that easy due to difficult access to fasteners. Add in the necessity to remove the timing belt, and this was a knuckle busting job but satisfying to knock out.
Filled up again and the car was ready to go. More reports of being too busy to pick up the car or send a tow and I just payed for a U-haul and towed it to him when I realized he wasn't serious about collecting it. Again, I feel like I'm being uncharitable, but I really don't do well with the "I'm busy" response outside of unfortunate circumstances. Then again, I don't think I've ever turned someone down to work on anything at my garage or borrow any tool. I love helping out people when they don't view my driveway as a long-term storage lot, in fact.

Anyway, lesson I learned is that I'm unlikely to suddenly become a highly patient person, so I need to make sure to avoid situations where I resent people leaving things at my house. Or, I need to accept that I'm working with a slow-moving personality if I do engage with those folks, and just forgive it. This wasn't a happy interaction for me. At least the payment was prompt and very fair, and I never said anything to indicate how frustrating this was, since that friction wasn't worth it to me.